How To Get What You Want

Just follow these five somewhat surprising steps to get whatever you want. This is not ‘law of attraction.’ These steps really work, as long as you actually take them.

1. Get clear on exactly what you want. One of the best ways is to have someone, a family member, a friend, or a trained professional, ask questions such as:

“What would you like?”

“What will having that do for you?”

“How will you know when you have it?”

“When you have it, what might you lose that you value?”

These can be asked in any sequence, repeated, and customized as needed. In a remarkable number of cases these seemingly simple questions can be nearly magical, letting you discover that what you really want might not be what you thought you wanted.

2. Be willing to color outside the lines. Billions of people want the same things as you. If they take the usual approaches, they’ll get the usual results. Oh, sure, some get lucky, but why depend on luck, when there are proven ways to get where you want to go?

One of the best methods for success for many situations is a mild degree of positive eccentricity. Experiment with doing things somewhat differently than others, and you will get different results. Of course, you’ll want to learn what works and what doesn’t in your field of interest, but then see how you can make adjustments, sometimes unexpected ones, and come out way ahead of the pack.

3. Many myths exist regarding confidence. It is not what people think it is. With confidence you can create great outcomes, yet it is not something to be had and you do not have to wait until you have it. Confidence is gained as you go. It is an acquired skill, built through practice.

The first thing to know about confidence is that you might not be ready. On the other hand, you’ll never be ready unless you gain some experience. Dive in and do what you fear, but do it on a small scale at first. Make a presentation to three family members, then a group of six friends, then a group of twenty, then a hundred, before you do a global webinar.

Once you have had enough experience, keep in mind that what you are doing is beneficial, and that the recipients want it. When I worked as a performer, I had no stage fright. That’s because I was thinking about how my audience would enjoy the show, rather than what could go wrong. Sometimes things did go wrong, but I just wrapped my comedy around those things, and they actually added to the enjoyment. With practice, you’ll learn to use mistakes to your advantage.

Perhaps you are in sales. If you have a product that you don’t believe in, you ought to find something else. When you absolutely know that your product is good, you’ll want your buyers to have it for their own good. That attitude is contagious!

4. Patience. With this one seemingly simple attribute, everyone can become a millionaire, as you’ll discover in a moment.

Most people drop out before they reach their goals. A few setbacks, disappointments, or embarrassing moments, and they pack up. Like the story of the three gold miners. They dug and dug, but gave up a little too soon. They sold their claim. Three feet past where they quit digging was the biggest vein of gold ever found in California.

J.K. Rowling, the author of Harry Potter, was rejected by 12 publishers over a long period before one took a chance on her story.

An appliance repairman for Sears earned just a notch above minimum wage. But, he put 20% of every paycheck in the bank. He lived in a small apartment, ate frugally, and drove old cars. When he had $10,000 in the bank, he decided to learn about investing. He continued working for Sears for twenty years. Then he retired with millions of dollars. Now, he pays cash for a brand new Jaguar every few years and has free time to pursue his passions. There was no luck involved in his financial success. This is something anyone can do.

5. Stay focused, motivated, and on-track. This is the most important of these five steps. One of the best ways to do it is have a friend, coworker, family member, or better yet, a trained coach, keep you reminded of your goals.

Getting Attention

One of the best ways to get someone’s fullest attention while showing great respect for that person at the same time is to ask, “Can I get your opinion on this?” The this would be something in the person’s area of expertise, or something of mutual interest. If you don’t believe how powerful this is, try thinking about how you would feel if someone asked that of you. Taking it a step further, if you ask that question in front of other people, it raises the person’s esteem.

Less Salt

The average American eats 20 to 30 times as much salt as is required for good health.

Forty percent of Americans want to eat less salt. Lemon or garlic make great salt substitutes. If you like salt on your steak, but know you shouldn’t eat so much salt, put a few drops of lemon juice or a sprinkle of garlic powder on the steak and enjoy the taste.

Car Batteries

This information can save you cost and trouble if your battery goes dead, and almost all motorists have this problem at one time or another.

Batteries can fail suddenly, so if one day you notice your car turns over sluggishly when you try to start it, have the battery checked as soon as you can, or check it yourself. You may save yourself an embarrasing and long wait for a jump or a tow truck.

There are really only two reasons batteries fail. Either the battery itself has gone bad, or there is something wrong elsewhere in the electrical system. To find out if it is simply a bad battery, and therefore save yourself the cost of professional diagnosis, do this: Take the caps off the battery. Most ‘sealed’ batteries actually have removable caps. If the liquid level in one cell is much lower than the others, chances are the battery is bad. If the liquid level is low in all cells, you may need to simply raise the levels with distilled water, and then the battery will work fine again.

If the liquid levels seem alright, you can take the center wire off the distributor so the car won’t start. Have someone hold the key in the start position for 15 seconds while you look into the top of the battery (wearing safety goggles). If you see bubbles forming in only one cell of the battery, that cell is bad and the battery must be replaced. If no bubbles form, or all cells form equal amounts of bubbles, the problem is elsewhere. Check for corrosion on the battery connections.

Please remember that battery acid can be injurious to your health, especially your eyes, and can damage clothing.


Furniture Finish Care

You can fix scratches with felt pens and crayons quite nicely. Just match the colors, or blend two colors together. Crayons are great because you can actually fill in scars with them.

To give bare wooden furniture a shiny, polished look, heat cooking oil until it smokes, let it cool and rub it in with a soft cloth. Olive oil works best.

Use baking soda works to remove recent water marks.